My Message Inflow MDB should depend upon the rar deployment

Question 1:

My MDB is starting before the RAR is deployed

Question 2:

My MDB is still active after I undeploy my RAR

Answer:

You need to make the MDB depend upon the rar deployment.

META-INF/jboss.xml

<jboss>
<message-driven>
<depends>jboss.jca:service=RARDeployment,name='yourrar.rar'</depends>
<resource-adapter-name>yourrar.rar</resource-adapter-name>
</message-driven>
</jboss>

Caveat:

The dependency/ordering only applies to the endpoint activation/deactivation.

It will not help if you have problems with class (re)deployment ordering.

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