In your code, you're making Infinispan use a different group communications settings to the ones used by AS, so it's no surprise that AS can cluster fine but Infinispan can't. It's precisely cos of this that you should follow instructions here in order to get your Infinispan instances to use the same transport layer that AS does.
If you still want to maintain a separate cluster group communication layer, the code above results in jgroups-udp.xml being used, so run the JGroups draw demo with it and try to debug it further outside the AS env.
Problem has been resolved by adding this parameter in standalone.bat, code was not changed and is working on Jboss 7.0.2 cluster
"%JAVA%" %JAVA_OPTS% ^
"-Djava.net.preferIPv4Stack=true" ^ <-------------- this option has been added